First Date

Your first date in how long?

So your fresh to the dating scene huh? nothing like the first date... especially if you have been out of the dating scene for awhile.

But not to worry! Here are a few hints to get your date off to a great start.

* HYGIENE, a real biggie... it's always good to smell delicious. Nothing worse than meeting some-one with fur ball teeth and sweaty under arms.

Seriously guys this will totally get your date running for the hills.

Spend sometime grooming yourself, give your eyebrows a quick pluck and trim that nostril hair and most importantly shower, shower, shower.

ok, I know many of us out there love the shower and would be mortified that I am even suggesting showering... I mean doesn't everyone do it?! um, well, not all I'm afraid.

So, if your not prone to showering please do for your date, they will totally appreciate it.

Our sense of smell is so powerful and can really turn you on or off a person in a second.

Even if you don't have any smellies, soap can be just as good. Of course, if you do want to splash out then remember not to over kill, too much can be just as bad not showering. Mm, well maybe not, but you know what I mean.


*Wear CLOTHES that suit the occassion. If you are going for a walk along the beach then high heels and your trendy 1940's skirt is so not gona work (no matter how much you love it).

And guys if you are planning on taking your date out to dinner, don't turn up in your builders singlet with a picture of Bart Simpson plastered all over it.

If your not sure what to wear then ask a friend, and make sure its a friend you can trust.

Oh and girls as much as it's tempting to use your womanly charm and show off all that you have, save it. Seriously, what he can't see will be much more enticing...

* Lastly BE YOUSELF. This is sooooooooooooo important. Just try and relax and be you, warts an all. Ok, maybe save the warts for later. But remember, this is not a contract that you're bound to. It is just a date. Two people getting to know each other. Enjoy yourself and have some fun.

And no matter what be truthful ie if your not going to call then don't say you will but don't be so truthful that you mention the fact that you've just got over a nasty std... you get what I mean hey.

ok, happy dating guys

lotsa luv
Caro xx

www.thelovecompany.co.nz

Hey hey,

Just thought I'd let you know my friend the one in Greece, you know, the one that met that guy on the internet?! well, she is not coming back! she is totally staying there. Mm, amazing huh? apparently he is just so 'incredible, wonderful, lovely, yummy, hot' all her words. Man, is she inlove or what!

Yay, I say!!!

luv 'n' stuff
me
www.thelovecompany.co.nz

hey there,

Don't you just love weddings?! We were out at Waiheke island on friday at the mud brick... you so have to go there!!! It's kinda like being in Tuscany... ha, not that I have ever been there but I've seen pic's and it so looks like it to me! The Mud Brick is this totally gorgeous restaurant with the most delicious food ever.

We arrived at 11am and had a wee glass of bubbles and then we were off! "Up to the top" shouted Christopher ( he's a mad friend of mine and the best man to Mel and Marcel, his close friends from Britain that had decided to get married here, how cool huh?!)

To the side of the Mud Brick is this 'hill'. I'd never noticed it before actually. Its not like real big but it's pretty big. Anyways up we went. Mm, high heel sandals climbing up a dodgy dry mud hill are not really the go! But... its all for a good course, yep, 'love'. Man what we do for love hey!

Well I tell ya when we got to the top it was so worth it! It was so incredibly stunning... it just kinda took your breath away...

We all got into position, and the ceremony began. I use to be really scared of talking in front of people but now 2 weddings later I'm quite enjoying it!! Ha, yep I'm really new to this but I so love it.

wow, I would so love to get married one day. I have never done it before. Been asked but we never quite got there. Mm, one day. Hopefully before I'm a hundred! ...

ok, ok, to the wedding... well what can I say... it was so beautiful. It was like time stood still, (really!). Standing and watching as two people pledge their love to each other is something I think I will always honour. It really is quite magically.

Wishing you many many years of happiness Mel and Marcel! and not forgetting you Paulo the best ring bearer I know.

lotsa love
Caro xx
www.thelovecompany.co.nz

I was watching shortland street last night (yep I'm a fan, I love it. New Zealand's only long term soapy!!) Anyway Kip, really cute doctor is madly in love with one of the nurses Tracy and guess what... she is getting ready to 'dump' him! but she just cant quite do it yet, anyway his sixth sense has kicked in and he knows something is not right but he still hanging in there and doing everything he could possible do to keep her! yep, its the desperate stage.

Now I've been on both ends of the stick... and man do they both suck! sure being the 'dumper' you don't feel as bad but you still don't like it, (or maybe you do, what is it when you like to inflict pain? sadist/masochist always get confused...) anyways if your the 'dumpee' then heartbreak city here you come!

Either way that is how love works huh?

Oh and my friend that met the love of her life online is loving Greece and madly in love with the hunky Greek boy... she's not coming home she tell's me!

ok, got to dash, got a wedding to finish I'm a celebrant and have this cool wedding on waiheke next week and still have to do a few final touches! (it's at the mud brick, man its so beautiful and the yummiest food ever!)

luv 'n' stuff
Caro xx
www.thelovecompany.co.nz

My friend left for Greece yesterday and man was she excited...

She met this guy online and according to them both this was it! So she's going to check him and Athens out and if it all goes to plan she's moving there! amazing huh?!

Omg she was so nervous when she left, I went over to help her pack, took hours! we had to try on every outfit just to make sure it looked good and of course it did, cause she is so gorgeous.

Anyways in the last few years I have realised that attraction doesn't just start with the physical. The one thing she kept saying was she loved the sound of his voice. It really did it for her, his voice that is, sure she had a pic and a blurry web cam experience but it was the voice that hooked her.

Makes me wonder if we met a person in the dark and had absolutely no idea what they looked like would we choose the same person when the lights came on. (ouu what cool idea maybe we should do speed dating in the dark?!)

Remember the movie 'Shallow Hal' that so cracked me up! well, that guy Tony Robbins, hypnotises 'hal' and his whole perspective on women changes... kinda makes you think hey?!

ok, got to get ready for class,

luv n stuff
caro xx
www.thelovecompany.co.nz

Just finished watching The Edge of Love. Man its kinda opened my eyes to Dylan Thomas.
He loved two women, one he married and the other was his childhood friend.

I think its based on the truth, I suppose it would have to be if they made a movie of him huh? Anyways it was kinda sad, like this mixed triangle of love.

Can you love two people at the same time, how do you choose one over the other?

Love can so be confusing!!!

luv n stuff
Caro xx
www.thelovecompany.co.nz

Hey hey,

Man, it so hot!!! The rain has come now and still you can't breath, the cicadas are getting louder and louder. It's mad weather, like the hottest temps ever! Mm, got a wee beer to cool me down though!

Friend of mine called me yesterday, she broke up with her partner a couple of days ago.
They had been together for 9-10yrs. Her voice was full of sadness, the lapses of silence filled the air. What do you say when some one's heart is breaking... Can anything, anyone dull the pain.

I tried as best I could to say the right thing, whatever that is. I told her she would get through this and to take one day at a time. I told her what I loved about her and that she could call me anytime day or night. Even though I knew how she felt (i've been there myself, more than once) but it kinda felt wrong to say. So I listened and allowed the long moments of silence to wash over us both.

What is it with heart break that makes you feel like your going to die and that you will never ever get through it! Yet we always do, some how. Wanting so desperately to hold on and not let go, whether they were good for you or not!

Where do you get the strength from to carry on... but the days, weeks, months pass and you find the courage from somewhere deep within you to move forward.

How amazing are we!
xx caro
www.thelovecompany.co.nz